Vintage and Nivek1, thanks so much for the advice, it’s really cleared things up for me.
So really the key to this problem is basically getting to know my music, and setting cue points, at phrases of interest or fade in / fade out points of my songs. At the moment all i have is a few scraps of paper with song names and songs which work and don’t work together, i guess that’s more in the realm harmonic mixing which i don’t think i’m totally ready for.
Beat matching manually is something i have been trying to work on, as of now i’ve done a couple of hour mixes (very rough around the edges) but i havn’t used the sync button. However doing this just by ear seems like my next step. Or doing things by ear generally (i’ve noticed i tend to stare at the beat count in Virtual Dj too much).
One thing i did pick up in my previous search for an answer was manually adjusting the bpm using the bpm editor to set the downbeat, is this another ‘cheat’ fix? From the advice you gave it seems this shouldn’t matter if i get my ear right?
Thanks again for the help though guys, much appreciated!